Dylan is motivated by charts and rewards. He has always enjoyed them and I’ve been trying to find some different ways to promote positive behavior. I recently came across this fantastic book called “Rewards for Kids!: Ready-To-Use Charts & Activities for Positive Parenting. Link to book on Amazon
What’s great about this book, is not only does it offer ways to use different reward charts as well as story examples but in the back of the book, there are numerous charts, tickets, tokens that can be torn out and photocopied to use over and over.
Yesterday morning, I explained to Dylan we would begin to work on a new positive behavior chart. I got the idea from this book but designed it to suit our needs. They also give you the pockets and tickets but we just made our own.
Using construction folded and stapled, we made three different pockets. A Sun pocket, a cloud pocket and a rainbow ticket holder pocket. I then cut out strips of paper which we drew either a sun or a cloud on them. I taped all three pockets to a wall in our kitchen. Whenever Dylan does something that is positive such as proper manners, listening the first time, putting his plate in the sink after eating, then he gets rewarded a Sun ticket. However, whenever he goes into a time out, I have to say things to him over and over again or any other action that is considered not good behavior, he gets a cloud ticket. The rainbow ticket holder holds all the tickets and when he is awarded one of the tickets, he picks it from the Rainbow holder and put it in the appropriate pocket.
At then end of the day, for us this is after he brushes his teeth at night, he gets to pick one Reward Activity to do the next day IF he has more Sun tickets then Cloud tickets. We came up with the ideas together. He immediately came up with Chuck E Cheese! Which I quickly shot down nicely explaining the reward will be something fun at home that he doesn’t get to do every day. Such as finger paints, dancing or pretend playing with mommy, playing dragons with daddy, doing a puzzle together, making cookies, playing a board game.
We do many of these things on a daily basis anyways but knowing that it will be extra special because he earned it really makes it exciting for him and he gets to pick what he wants to do gives him a little bit of control as well.
If he gets more cloud tickets than sun tickets then he doesn’t get to pick a special activity and if he has a day with no cloud tickets, we will put a sticker on a special chart. He is going to see Toy Story 3 on Ice at the end of February and wants a T-shirt. I told him if he gets 12 special stickers before he goes, he can get a souvenir. The big day is 26 days away so we shall see if that is too difficult to do or not.
Here is a picture of our ticket holders. Please ignore the small circle sticker chart, we use that on our school days. That is another chart for another day!