Today my boy had his first ice skating lesson. It was very heartbreaking to watch. Din is the type of boy that wants to excel in everything and when he doesn’t succeed at first, well it was difficult to watch. On the way to the rink, I was trying to prep him and let him know that many of the kids, including him may be falling down. First the instructors had the kids practice sitting on the floor (off the ice) and practice standing up properly. Next about thirty 3 and 4 year old kids were led to the door to enter the ice rink. As soon as Din stepped on the ice with two feet, he fell on to his butt. And that’s when it started….for the next 30 minutes, every time he stood up or tried to, he would fall right down again. I felt like a mommy turtle watching a baby turtle on its back trying to turn itself right from far away. He was on the ice and I couldn’t do a damn thing to help him since I couldn’t go on the ice. There was a dad there who occasionally yelled out to his kids on the ice and at first I was thinking ‘Guy keep it down’ but it actually then encouraged me because that was the only way I could maybe get some encouragement to Din. I started yelling out “Great job Din – You can do it!” I don’t know if he heard me but it certainly helped me better. Even DH yelled out some encouragement to Din after I did.
I took some pictures and some video. I was worried that he wouldn’t want to try it again. At times, he was laying on the ice, pounding it with his fist or skate; clearly frustration is what Din was feeling. He was doing better towards the end of the lesson. At first, he couldn’t even stand up but by the end of the class, he was able to stand up and take two steps before falling again. Din ended the class by having a complete meltdown to one of the instructors who did a great job trying to get him to try again and get focused. He did try again but when it kept failing, he was done and the instructor carried him crying over to me. Heartbreaking!
DH and I told him how fantastic he did and how proud of him we are of all the trying he did. One of the problems we realized was that we put him in a pair of 2nd hand hockey skates and we should have put him in figure skates which has a straighter and longer back instead of the shorter, curvier skate of the hockey skate. We brought his little teary eyed face over to the rental area and showed him the difference. Promised him, we would try a pair of new skates next time. I also showed him a video of him standing and skating for 30 seconds. He was excited I had this video. He told me he thought he was just falling down and was so proud of himself when I showed him he can do it. He was so cute too, told me he thought skating was going to be easy. I’m so proud of him for all the trying he did today.